Being alone regarding the coastline just isn’t a comfortable or safe destination to be, so most crabs will discover another bucket to visit into. That is a good metaphor for the move from monogamy to poly, or in one form of poly to a different. We frequently have a tendency to grab your hands on a brand new pair of norms instead tightly and insist that every person else within our community follows them too.
Within my workshop it quickly became obvious that individuals had been acquainted with two different varieties of poly crab buckets. The norms in a single bucket had been about dividing individuals into different varieties of relationships ( ag e.g. main and additional), having guidelines and contracts ( ag e.g. certain date-nights for every relationship, maintaining specific forms of tasks sacred for many relationships, etc.), and searching for вЂunicornsвЂ™ to create the most wonderful poly constellation (e.g. Continua a leggere